DAY 148: How to stabilise myself when facing unexpected events

Today my bicycle was stolen and it took me a few hours  to stabilise myself and to focus on the things that I had planned that day and so this post is specifically to assist me in dealing with unexpected events in my reality.

When I realised that there had been a deliberate robbery, I felt an energy of anger growing within me against whoever had taken it, against society as a whole and against the economic system that promotes survival. It helped to go out and run to keep moving myself and slow down the mind. The tendency was to look at every single bicycle hoping to find mine but whenever the energetic emotion of anger and sadness came up, I stopped the thought, I breathed and reminded me that I am not defined by this situation of being a victim of theft.

This was the second time it happened, however now I have the tools to deal with the emotional turmoil that comes with such an experience. I noticed how my thoughts were being contaminated by this experience of disappointment and distrust towards society, and that my mind was projecting such emotions to other areas of my life, which was unacceptable. How can my experience of anger influence my attitude towards other things that I am doing? Why do I accept becoming the emotions and therefore believing that whatever I do will get contaminated by it? Well, in reality I now see that I am the thoughts and emotions that I accept within me. That is also why it was no surprise that suddently I was distrusting my ability to deal with other areas of my life, because my distrust towards the outer world was firstly existing inside me.

In fact, all these emotional waves are dependent on whatever I do with them - either I feed them to continue the victim personality or I let them go. Letting them go does not mean to forget them but to simply use this memory as a remembrance to learn from: for example, to be more careful when locking my bike or to consider a bike chip. Well, bicycle theft is not a good example considering that it is quite hard to prevent these: no matter how good one's lock is, in the UK a bicycle is stolen every minute and less than 5% of those are returned to their owners (Bikeoff.org). Nevertheless, preventing my emotional reaction is completely my own resonsibility.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to build up the emotion of anger within me when facing an unexpected event such as bike theft.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to take this incident personally and to think that someone had done this deliberately to make me anger.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to blame another for the anger I create/participate within me.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to project the anger and the sadness into other areas of my life and to fear that unexpected events affect other areas of my life.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to use this event to feed other emotions within me such as fear.

I forgive myself for not having accepted and allowed myself to stabilise myself and to resume my plans of the day realising that thinking about what happened and trying to look for the bicycle was not going to stabilise me.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to participate in the emotion of self-distrust when facing a situation of feeling distrust towards the society we live in. In this, I realise that this generalisation is not supportive and I am aware that the current system promotes such separation among the people when in fact it is not necessary nor real, as we are all one and equal.

I forgive myself for not having accepted and allowed myself to look at this point in common sense, do what needs to be done in terms of reporting the burglary and then continue with tasks.

When and as I see myself trying to justify the feeling of sadness within me based on the memory of today's events, I stop and I breathe.

When and as I see myself feeling anger and feeding this feeling within me when I face an unexpected event that imply something being stolen from me, I stop the emotional build-up, I breathe and assist me to fully stabilise my presence.

When and as I see myself projecting the anger unto the people around me and unto society as a whole, I stop the thoughts and I breathe. I see, realise and understand that I am the only one creating this experience to myself and feeding the emotion within me. I also see, realise and understand that any scenarios/projections unto other areas of my life are not real and are unnecessary since these are images fed by emotions such as fear.

When and as I see myself going into the turmoil of emotions that are manifested in the way I start questioning everything and distrusting everyone in my reality, I stop and I breathe.

When and as I see myself getting obecessed with the emotions and distracting myself from the other responsibilities in my day, I stop and I breathe. I assist me in learning from this experience and to use this as a remembrance to be more effective in stopping the energy within me and to allow myself to dedicate my time to my responsibilities.

When and as I see myself believing that it is OK to be emotionally overwhelmed by situations like this, I stop and I breathe.

When and as I see myself judging the time that I am spending in dealing with this point as pointless, I stop and I breathe. I see, realise and understand that I am dealing with a point that is here and that this is an opportunity to re-establish my self-stability and to re-start in every breath, fresh and in complete self-will to correct myself and to give me direction.

I see, realise and understand that the time spent in the mind of emotions, thoughts and projections is time that I miss of my creation here.

I commit myself to let go of the emotion of anger as I see that it does not assist me to see the situation in common sense and in being practical about the things to do in order to deal with the events in my reality effectively and in self-support.

Reference: http://www.bikeoff.org/design_resource/ABT_problem_introduction.shtml

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DAY 147: Honouring being alive - reflections during medical surgery

While I was laid down on the chair I felt my legs and arms weaker and numb, as if the local anesthetic was infiltrating the rest of my body. I was breathing to relax my jaw and to slow down my heart beat . What I was also slowing down was my self-defeating thoughts. The fear of something going wrong can be persistent but, for the second time in my life, I noticed that my willingness to be alive is real, even if I am not fully aware of it in every moment. The decision to stand with my body and to assist me through stopping the mind was simple - in fact, all I could do in that moment was to be present, to trust myself and to wait for the endondotical surgery to finish.

Image: http://www.capcitydental.co.uk/articles-and-videos/recognising-whos-a-good-dentist/

What began as a root canal complication ended up to be a tooth perforation, an infected root canal and an abcess of the size of a grape inside my gum. This was the third time that this tooth was giving me pain: the first root canal treatment was done in August, followed by another in November and I was  on antibiotics and painkillers since then. My mouth started screaming for emergency care and a different approach was needed. I decided to go to a new dentist and have a second opinion... In the end, emergency assistance was needed. I wonder how much time and sleep I could have enjoyed if I had had the specialist help since August.

Back to the surgery, in my mind, the thoughts were dancing to the sound of memories, of stories and of cases that were fatal. The initial fear of dying from an accident got smaller and smaller by stopping feeding these ideas. First of all, it was a non-sensical inner backchat - I was batling against my own life and I was separating me from my body that keeps me here. Secondly, I was projecting the worst case scenario without any consistent fact - the Doctor was saying that everything was going as expected. Thirdly, I cannot foresee what happens to me after my death - so excluding that alternate reality was simple. Lastly, I realised that the fear and the distrust was a sabotage of my own decision of going to a new place.

What I did do was to appreciate that moment: I was grateful for the fact that I was being treated, that I was having access to a basic human right that is quality health care; I was grateful for having  had searched for help and that people around me had recommended me seeing a recognised specialist. 

Whilst on that chair, I could see the need of making such quality healthcare available to everyone in need - when it comes to pain, everyone feels it and everyone deserves the best assistance. I was grateful for the fact that people care about other people's teeth and that are interested in investigating the problem and in working on a solution. I was also aware that unfortunately many people (the majority I would say) are not able to have this type of specialised medical attention: first, because they don't know they need; secondly, they don't have the funds for it.

In what information is concerced, I was shocked by the fact that many dentists practice root canal surgeries without the required equipment and that many cases end up in failure and infections. I have a university degree, I am doing an MA, I speak three language and despite all of this I did not know what Endondotical specialists were, and worse, that I needed one baddly.  To my surprise, I was not the only one thinking that any dentist can do such treatments. Well, they probably can but they shouldn't unless they have the experience and the equipment to do it well.

Honouring being alive applies to my life but also to the lives of everyone else. I wonder how many people might be going through the same descomfort (it can be in the mouth or anywhere else where body pain exists) without actually asking for help or being able to have the medical intervention needed. I wonder if this article will assist people to skip some unnecessary pain and empower both patients, doctors and society to do something about it.

My recommendations are:

1. Addressed to doctors - there must be a call for self-responsibility and humbleness in the sense of recognising that they might not have the proper equipment to fix the problem and that the best thing to do is to refere the patient to a specialist; at the heart of its profession must be the patient's well-being; preventive medicine should be applied in order to help patients to prevent future health issues; doctors should have a network of contacts in order to ask for help if a second opinion is needed; doctors should invest in their emotional stability to make sure that their ability to help another is not jeopardized by the tricks of the mind; doctors should be the ambassadors for honouring life as many lives depend on their ability to reduce pain and find cures; finally, it is essential that doctors support political campaigns that promote equal access to healthcare for all citizens.

2. Addressed to patients and everyone of us - do ask for help when your body is showing signs of infections; if you see that your doctor is not able to offer a solution, there is no problem in asking for a second opinion to another doctor; if your doctor gives you a treatment that implies removing teeth, definitely go somewhere else to double check before any irreversible damage is done; honour your life and your body unconditionally in every moment; by doing so, we are more likely to also care about our fellow humans and to recognise that we are all better off if everyone has good health and lives well; be open to listen to another's issue and be willing to share any information or contacts that may be helpful;

3. Addressed to our society - it is our responsibility to prevent healthcare issues and to guarantee that problems are solved once and for all. By this, it is our responsibility to support social, political and scientific innovation so that the future is brighter and fairer for everyone. It is also a right and an obligation to investigate and to share solutions that tackle the very root of economic inequality. Finally, lets all do our share and communicate solutions to problems that we have found in our personal lives and live the commitment of doing unto another that which we would have liked to be done unto us.

In my next article I will write on the effects and how one can support oneself when it comes to chronic pain and medical frustration.

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DAY 95: Facing the 'career indecision pattern' for many years...

In my most recent exercise of the Agreement course, I had a look at who I am currently and how I became this me. In order to expand on this point, I went through the patterns that became part of me, in my way of living, my thoughts and my plans. One of these points is the career indecision that I faced almost all my life. There was some sort of pressure from adults in wanting to know "what you want to do when you get older?..." and I was stressed with the fact that I did not know. I was good at school so people used to say "don't worry, you have time and you are good at school so you can do whatever you want". Being good at school did not seem to be enough - I desired something or someone to tell me "This is your best choice, go for it, your vocation is for that", but this obviously never happened. It is my decision and it is my assessment to see in self-honest what is that I can/want do. Probably this is a pattern of modern days, because in the past people did not have much choice: they would work at the parents' business or simply work in whatever their city could provide as an option. In my case, I had the opportunity to travel since I was 7 years old and my parents never imposed me any career path apart from "do what makes you happy and please take care of yourself". So this freedom to decide became a frustration and the years passed by. Influenced by society, I realised that I desired a prestigious career for the social and financial benefits of it. However, this greed did not sound right and I was not educated to do things for money. Probably that's why I had a resistance to work in the system, exchanging my time/dedication for a salary, but this is how it works and I made peace with it. So you may ask yourself: have you decided what to do? Before I get to that point, I will share in the blogs to come some of the writings that I went through on my Agreement course because this is the Process that I am walking and answers won't come through miracles. I am walking this point in real-time and one thing I can see now that I did not have before was the tools to face my self-doubts and my fears. Now, I do have the solution to know myself through self-forgiveness, writing, investigating the things for real without judgments and being opened to solutions outside of the comfort zone of the past. Stay tuned and feel free to send a comment in case you faced or are facing the career indecision pattern.

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Day 14: Why do honest children need to adapt to a world of dishonesty?

When a child is born, there is a vast amount of rules, costumes and traditions that the child is not aware of. Then the education, together with what the child observes within its environment are the tools provided for the child to adapt and learn to 'live'/survive in the society.

Is the the adaptation a limitation to the child's self-expression?

Or

Are we willing to adapt ourselves to the freshness that a child brings?

For the first question, my answer is yes, it became a limitation. But it does not necessarily need to be. In fact, the adaptation should not even exist - the process of being born in this planet should be seen as an opportunity for LIFE. And Life is huge. Not even the planet has boundaries - frontiers are man made. A river flows between two countries... The only need for a child is to have a world prepared for him/her to develop, to grow, to Live and not survive. A closer look: the education at school became a preparation for the rat race and to adapt to the competition that the adults participate in - so the child is being educated to know how to survive in this mad world and undoubtedly this will be a limitation.
As a result of being conditionned when young, adults cannot see other options anymore - they have been educated to adapt themselves, so this will be the information given to the new born ones. It will take us a double or a triple effort to overcome such boundaries of the mind that were uploaded into us since ever so that we do not educate the next generations based on the same limitations and suppressions. Why do children need to adapt to a world of dishonesty when they are honest? Without realising, we are uneducating the child's sense of justice and equality by not creating an environment where the principle of equality and sharing is practically lived. At school, children are taught to share, as we know this is the best for all the children - Even adults get angry if they are not treated in the same way as the neighbour! - However, we all know that the child will need to fit in this system of survival, where fear comes from the unemplyment rates and eternal crises that the History books speak about.

This endless issue has passed from generation to generation. Its solution will be:

• In the education of the child based on the principles of honesty, self-expression, truth, equality and respect without accepting illusions, lies, pretence, superiority/inferiority and self-interest.
• In the world system as a whole, with an honest political and economic system, based on the respect of every citizen and the maintenance of a world that works for everyone, without fear or survival.

There are 6 billion brains working so how come this world only feeds two thirds?

This brings already the answer to the second question about our own adaptation to the new born children - and lets stop the excuse of overpopulation... Many speak about a sustainable development that guarantees the necessary conditions for the next generations - we are talking about an adaptation that we all have to take in order to change our habits, for example. So it is all about a change for the best for all - both for those that exist and those that are still to be born. By realising the process of self-realization we are all currently in, it is obvious that we are all in the same situation: equally alive with common physical needs and mind patterns. Unquestionably, a major step is the transformation of the economic system towards equality, which is a mission of the Equal Money System movement, that is bringing new perspectives over the way things are currently 'not working'... Can you imagine a world where children are welcome without any economic restraints? No limitation will be accepted and adaptation unnecessary because the child, as well as every human being, has the value of Life, where self-expression and human development are respected.

As a support, I recommend the Desteni I Process Lite, a tool to know thyself towards self-correction. The patterns stop within oneself.
This current world system brings chronic diseases but we have the power to give Life to ourselves. Start by forGiving yourself.

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Day 13: Fast as the mind. Empty Words. Starting in every moment...

I have to stand as me, as life, no matter with who I am with, no matter where I am and no matter what I am doing - this because it is always me, always life, always alive. So far, I have been struggling sometimes to fit in specific environments, to appreciate others and to forget about me here.

I find that the appearance and the way people talk can be a limitation and a barrier to establish communication, which is completely self-dishonest. Someone with a tie is the same as in shorts. Only the clothes change. However, it seems that the perception takes control over what is really relevant in here. A tie 'means' credibility, shorts 'mean' nothing. And that's the way we accept things. Well, lets shave our hairs and see how equals we all are!

Empty words have the same effect. These words do nothing: it is all about LIVING THE WORDS I SPEAK. We are all here to see. We are all here to be. I am starting in every moment.

Today I realised the point of wanting everything at the same time, now, here. That is why I have been struggling to learn how to cook - I am not giving (myself/to the vegetables) time to cook properly. The fast-thinking takes control over my actions and this has been manifested in the way I speak which could be much clear if I speak slower and aware of each word I speak. This society is having the same pattern, I see.

- How come trees have 4 million years old and are still here with us, while human beings that were born two centuries ago ceased to exist? Along with the latest the technology, we have created new diseases such as stress. If something gets broken today, it will be most probably cheaper to produce a new one than to repair the existent one - human beings cannot wait! But wait a second: where are we going with such a rush? Is this the direction we want to take? What if we STOP now to see what we have been creating so far and realise that the starting points of self-dishonest, separation, conquer, control (over nature and human beings), suppression and limitation are not working. In fact, we cannot wait longer for this to happen. But words do anything if not lived - so I STAND UP.

www.equalmoney.org --- things will now be build to last!

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