DAY 134: The Desteni of Living - My Declaration of Principle

On this blog I share the Principles that I commit myself to Stand as and Live by, manifested in everything I Do, Speak and Think. This is my Process of Living, supported by the Desteni tools, that I Walk for myself.

1. Realising and living my utmost potential

2. Living by the principle of what is best for all – guiding me in thought, word and deed to always in all ways direct problems to the best possible outcome for all

3. Living by the principle of self honesty – to ensure I am pure in thought, word and deed: that my within and without is equal and one. Who I am within is who I am without and vice-versa

4. Self Purification through Writing, Self Forgiveness and Self Application – the action of realising I am responsible for my own thoughts, words and deeds, to forgive myself for transgressions and change myself to ensure I take responsibility for who, what and how I am and through this know that I can trust myself to always be honest with me and so others

5. Living the principle of Self Responsibility – realising only I am responsible for what I accept and allow inside of me, my relationships and my outside world and so with this responsibility: only I have the power and ability to change that which I see is compromising who I am, what I live and how this affects others

6. Realising that who I am in thought, word and deed affects not only myself – but others as well and so with Self Responsibility in thought, word and deed – I take responsibility for myself and so my relationships to be Self Aware in every moment and live in such a way that is best for me and so others as well

7. Living the Principle of Self Awareness – to be aware, to see, to recognize my own thoughts and Mind, to be self honest to the extent where I can take responsibility for when I see my thoughts / Mind is not what is best for me / others and commit to immediately take responsibility and change for myself and so for others

8. With taking responsibility for myself, becoming aware of myself – take responsibility and become aware of others in my life, to assist and support them as I am assisting and supporting myself – to give as you would like to receive and do the extra bit every day to see where I can contribute to other’s lives and so my own

9. Living the principle of self trust – as I commit myself to remain constant in my living of self honesty, self responsibility and self awareness, I stand as an unbending trust that I always in all ways know who I am no matter what I face and that in this I know, as proven in the constancy of my living that I will always honour and stand by what is best for all and so best for me

10. Making Love Visible – through me not accepting/allowing anything less than my utmost potential, I support those in my life to reach their utmost potential, to love them as I have shown love to myself by gifting to me my utmost potential, the best life/living experience and show others as I have shown myself what it means to LIVE

11. No one can save you, save yourself – the realisation that the tools and principles of Desteni is the guide, but I must walk the path myself. We are here to assist and support each other in this process from Consciousness to Awareness/LIFE and what it means to live – but the process itself, where you are alone with yourself in your own Mind: is walked alone

12. Not waiting for anything or anyone to take responsibility for me and this world – but that I realise I have created who and how I am in this moment, therefore I have the responsibility to change who and how I am and so the realisation that we as a collective created how and what this world is today and so it is the responsibility of the collective to change how and what this world is today

13. Honouring the life in each person, animal – everything from the great to the small of earth, that we expand our awareness and responsibility to creating the best possible life for everyone and everything and so ourselves

14. Relationships as Agreements: individuals coming together using agreements as a platform to one-on-one expand, grow and develop as individuals in life and living to support/assist each other unconditionally to reach their utmost potential where the agreement is a coming together of individuals understanding what it means to stand as equals and to stand as one

15. Sex as Self Expression – where sex is an united expression between individuals in honour, respect, consideration and regard of each other as equals, two physical bodies uniting in equality and oneness – a merging of two equals as one physically.

16. Realising that by the virtue of me being in this world – my responsibility does not only extend to my own Mind / my own Life, but to the minds and lives of everything and everyone of this earth and so my commitment is to extend this awareness to all of humanity to work together and live together to make this world heaven on earth for ourselves and the generations to come

17. I must in my thoughts, words and deeds – but most importantly in my living actions, become a living example for others in my world that is noticeable and visible when it comes to the potential of a person to change themselves and so change their world. So that more people can realise how we can change this world, by standing united in our self change within the principle of what is best for all to bring heaven to earth

18. I am the change I want to see in me and my world – to bring heaven to earth is to bring into being, into living the LIVING PROOF of a PRACTICAL HEAVEN that can be seen and heard in our actions and words. We are the Living Heaven that must come into creation in this living world.

19. Through purifying my thoughts, words and deeds – my inner becomes my outer, so I bring into creation me as heaven into earth, realising it is not enough to ‘see the change / be the change’ – for change to become REAL it must be a constant, consistent living of me through the words I speak and the actions I live visible and noticeable to all in every moment of breath

20. Realising that my physical body is my temple – my physical body is the living flesh through which and in which I will bring into being and create / manifest heaven on earth as me in my thoughts, words and deeds and so I honour, respect and regard – nurture and support my physical body as I would nurture and support me as equals: my body is me

21. We are the change in ourselves and this world we have been waiting for: and so I commit to dedicate myself and my life for each one as all to realise this, as nothing will change if we don’t change in all that we are, within and without

22. The realisation that for me to be able to change myself in thought, word and deed to the most effective living being that I can be and become – I first have to ‘know thyself’ and so commit myself to investigate, introspect and understand how I became who I am today, to prepare the road before me into self creation of a responsible, aware, self honest and trustworthy person for myself and so for all

23. The realisation that for me to be able to contribute to change in this world – I have to get to ‘know thyself’ as this world and so commit myself to research, investigate and introspect the inner and outer workings of this world and align the systems of today to present and give the best possible life for all on Earth

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DAY 94: Competition with males, females and my own self

The self-forgiveness shared below assisted me to look at the point of competition with others. Curiously, the word competition has a "petition" in it and, according to the dictionary, one of its meanings is "to make an appeal to (a deity or superior)". So, already in the word I see that the relationships of competition is based on the polarity of superiority/inferiority and the perceived power in relation to the other. In this Process of Self-honesty, I bring the point to myself to understand how I am creating such energy within me and how is it manifested in the relationship with myself and consequently with others.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to get distracted with the energy of competition in my relationship to other people instead of realising that competition/the need to compete is a distraction of the mind.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to participate in the energy of competition, love and fear in my relationship with males, as if we need to be in constant provocation. Within this, I realise that this is actually a sabotage by wanting to deliberately use another's feelings for my own self-appreciation and self-worthiness as I perceived myself to be dependent on another’s attention.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to believe that I am less than Life when I am rejected by a male, which is based on the belief that the other completes me and because I see the other as a proof that I must be cool otherwise he would not be with me. In this, I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to judge me as superior or inferior when I have a partner or when I don’t have a partner.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to become dependent on another’s approval about what I do and what I say, instead of trusting me unconditionally and standing equal to another, without dependency but rather in mutual support. I realise that I wish another to ask for my help to make me feel worthy, when in fact I am not giving me my own self-support. Each one is responsible for support oneself-first and then simply support another as self.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to participate in the energy of competition in my relationship with females, which I now realise that it is the same relationship that I have with males and therefore it is a pattern within me that I must become aware of and correct.

Self-corrective Statements

When and as I see myself participating in the energy of competition with another person, I stop and I breathe. I realise that this Process is about Me, as who I am in every moment. I realise that this personality of competition is not who I want to be and it actually creates stress within me, almost like a bomb-clock that activates based on the belief that I must win/or be faster/or be better/or make more money, when all of this does not create any support for none of us and it actually creates friction and unstability in my relationship with others.

When and as I see myself wanting to be the leader and superior in a relationship with another, either a male or a female, I stop and I breathe. In fact, I realise that it was not about the gender, but it is my starting point of competition in my relationship with others that actually reveals my lack of self-worthiness. From here, I understand that there is this perceived inferiority that I try to hide from myself and then I try to cover up by going into the other polarity of wanting to be superior, hidden behind personalities, never considering to stand Equal and One with/as the other, in the moment, without trying to show off or do anything to prove myself to another.

I commit myself to stop the idea that males are naturally more confident than women. I realise that this is actually an excuse for me to not change and become confident in my actions.

I commit myself to stop existing using the male personalities as a reference that I must copy and become, instead of learning both with males and females if there are any characteristics that I see will support me in creating my stability in my life.

I commit myself to understand and investigate where the energy of competition comes from; what is the point that I want to compete against; and then walk that point in order to become it, instead of seeing it as separated from me. I realise that the energy of competition is a protection of the ego to not learn with another, not change the relationship with myself and keep the time-loop in regards to that specific point.

References: http://oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/petition

Picture: Credit: Mark Philbrick/BYU http://phys.org/news/2013-02-gender-gap-school-math-competitions.html

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Day 80: LOVE is a COMMODITY

The Love campaign starts this week, where Destonians around the world are looking into Love - as that which became the reflection of this world system of the mind and economic survival - and re-defining it to become actual real change. 
Today's Love is a Commodity, something that is provided, exchanged, sometimes bought, let, consumed always in self-interest, ego, desire, need and, ultimately, based on fear of facing oneself.

Love is a commodity to which women and men accept and allow self to accommodate, the same way we have a money system that has last centuries due to the accommodation of Humanity to survival, in complete disrespect and disregards for Life ...


Who invented Love in such unfairness? Where does the accommodation come from? Who is selling and buying Love nowadays?
Everyone; Everywhere; Everyone.
Despite the fact that one sees the inequality and backchat around love stories, the latter are still on the top of search engines, hastags and facebook sharings. The Love has been used to cover all forms of self-responsibility, keeping one entertained with dreams and hopes, as if one is not in charge of emotions, reactions and feelings.
Love just like the humans, changes according to the energetic movements always jumping between the positive and the negative in the human's physical body. That is why thus far no one walked in self-stability, because we haven't let go of the accepted and allowed patterns of the mind to take over the movement of the breath. Love will never create peace, just like this system will never create peace.
"Love is Low". "Love is high". "Love is light." as it has been defined and promoted throughout time in the media to makes us as lovely consumers. Isn't it wonderful?
Let's say out loud: LOVE IS A LIE.

In this 7 years of process recreating myself, I dedicate myself to stop the lie within myself and this world to recreate myself for real, as an example of LIFE.

As Lindsay wrote on her amazing Journey To Life blog, in this self-agreement, "I agree to ensure that all decisions, all movements, all relationships are aligned to what is best for all and not a single shred of Self-Interest is allowed".
I have been realizing that the emotions of the so called love are energetic possession that are based on fear of lost, instability and fear of being alone. So who invented Love?? - The same mind that invented the money system. Not that difficult to see hein?
Once these patterns are seen, the decision of standing for and as Life steps in. From my experience, if I do not walk the decision to become/do what is best for all, I live the and in consequence. It would be such a waste of Self, as Life, if not allowing myself to Self-Love and Live-Self, in oneness and equality, stopping the mind and getting real in this physical reality.


But how can we See the Love that we have become? Isn't this a blindness?
The only way to see what Love really is, as that which we have accepted ourselves to become, if through Self-Honesty. By seeing myself as the deception, stuck in hope and illusions and plans, I start seeing what is going on inside me/around me Here, Now. This then leads me to FORGIVE MYSELF for that which I have accepted and allowed to exist, participate and create in this world as this self-anger, self-indulgence, acceptance without considering doing/being the best of me for the best for all. I Stop, I breathe and I walk the decision to live the new version of Love as Life on this Earth, in real practical application guaranteeing that no Lives are lost due to profit and abuse. Thus, only a system that Values Life can remain as an example of Love thy Neighbor as Thyself.

For more information about the 7 year process and Self-Forgiveness Statements, go to:

Artwork "What Real Love Is" by Kelly Posey http://kellyposey.blogspot.com/2012/05/day-12-what-is-real-love.html

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Day 73: What came first, Love or Fear?

This week was the launch of the Fear Week and people from around the world shared their fears in front of a camera. Actually, the first fear of sharing oneself to the world in self-honesty was transcended. 
Interestingly, our society is so much based on fear that I find myself familiar with everything that has been shared. Fear is something that we, as human beings, have in common however, that does not mean we must participate in and as fear. Once one realises that fear exists against Life in a way of self-sabotage and self-limitation, one will start questioning (and wanting to find out!):
How is Life without fear? Who would I be without the fears I believe in? What would I do if fear was out of my thoughts, words and action?

Why is that in my mind fear behaves like an invisible god, confused between doing good or bad? Fear is a form of control that has been used in every sector of society and you see it in the media, politics, economy, health system, education, career and in your family. Human beings are too scared to free themselves and realise that we are able to upgrade the human version. We fear to reach perfection and realise that there is no God "up there" and that we are responsible for ourselves... We fear to realise that all we've been doing is wasting our time with ideas and beliefs, while Life was just in front of our I's...

What about Love? When I first read the question What came first, Love or Fear, by Bernard Poolman, I could not see the difference because the love that I know thus far is in fact based on the fear of lost. Fear and love have the same effect on my belly...
Love and Fear are the ingredients of consumerism - you will buy both.

As Bernard Poolman says, When you investigate all things as Jesus suggested, you will see that Fear came first at the moment of separation, the moment of individualization and as the fear grew, you eventually started looking for a way to deny the fear and in this you created a total illusion you called love. In spite of the evidence that the world is ruled by fear, and that love has no effect on this, The proponents of Love with total denial of self honest truth proclaim Love like an insane person. 

STOP and become self honest. 

You have this responsibility to your children and all living things. Fear is the creator of Love. You know this. At the Desteni forum there is support to help in this most difficult journey back to life. Love is the greatest Lie ever invented.

More about the Fear Week and videos: http://destonians.com/

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Day 70: An Agreement with Self - no more relation'shits

Amazingly, only recently I started to walk the process in Self-Agreement. What does this mean? It means that until now I have been trapping myself into believing that someone or something outside me would change me or change my reality.

In a world of mirrors, relationships are a reflection of the mess accepted inside oneself. Even though I was reading the Desteni material and investigating myself through mind constructs, I have been perceiving this process as separated from me. Obviously, this would not going to work and it reached an unsustainable situation towards my relationship with my partner.

We have been living together for two years and by that time we established an Agreement. We wrote down how we would be supporting each other unconditionally as self; how we would practically and equally be Here as self, walking each one's individual process, side by side. We also recorded our conversations saying how we would apply ourselves during the time we would share ahead. The process is indeed about walking the words.

After two years, we were still having a relationship and we have deceived ourselves in thinking we had an agreement.

"Agreement is not based in thinking, it's based in self honest practical living support of each other - sharing, respecting, supporting." Bernard Poolman

I was still feeding a relationship since I haven't established myself as an Agreement with Self! I was still trying to  change myself for others, instead of changing myself for myself, equal and one with another. Without realising, I was deceiving myself by going into hope and faith in believing that the situation would be better in the future and that certain points within us would simply disappear throughout time.  A relationship manifests the relationship one has with oneself. In my case, it was manifesting self-distrust, self-sabotage, self-victimisation and self-dishonesty. These patterns were then being projected towards my partner as blame, expectation, competition and unstability.

This is exactly what a relationship is based on:  to exist in relation to someone; to exist in comparison to someone; to exist as the connection with a partner, etc... However, this is not how I want to exist as! All of that is based on a complete separation and is not me as Life here in Oneness and Equality.

From my experience, relationships do not bring any good to Life neither to the world, quite the contrary: the constant polarity of highs and lows, the needs, the desires, the memories, the idea of perfections and the separation towards myself.

As Bernard Poolman says, "If it is about 'love' - then, you're screwed. If it is about a life worth living - you have to draw some lines".

And that is what an Agreement is about: "An agreement is a commitment to support each other for Life in strengthening each other through the support, to bring about a world that's best for all in living it as the agreement."

First, there must be an Agreement with Self. It is all-ways about Self. In fact, it has nothing to do with a partner. I am here alone, walking alone, as all. If I am not an example - I can't have any expectation towards another being. 

Am I Self-Aware in every moment? 

Am I applying myself in self-honesty in every moment of breath? 

Am I being an example of Life here on Earth? 

Am I pushing myself to face all issues of Ego that require to be seen and transcended? 

Why am I holding on to personalities, beliefs and ideas about myself? 

Who am I trying to cheat? 

If all around me in this society is a bad example of what humans can achieve, one must find support somewhere else! I am really glad that I have enrolled the Relationship course as part of the Desteni I Process. I will focus myself on working on the patterns of self-distrust, self-sabotage, self-victimisation and self-dishonesty which I have defined me as.  I am now on Lesson 1: Who am I in this course? focused on the difference between relationships and agreements and I already see the importance of the vocabulary shared in the materials, the explanations of how personality works and manifests in this world. It will support me to  really become effective and established in SELF-agreement and I will be able to identify when I am slipping into relationship patterns, and when I am living my self-agreement, with myself, and with another. I will work on my acceptances and allowances which I am responsible for. One thing is for sure: I know what an agreement is not! So now, everything that comes out of my application will be towards creating myself and in creating a practical life that is best for all.

"Place the practical points to be lived on the walls where you live and Walk It. Make it so visible that you cannot miss it." Bernard Poolman

Relationships are of the mind. An agreement is physical seen in actions and living and interaction, walking responsibility, discipline, assistance and support that is Visible.

This is the walk I am taking, for me as all. My participation in the world, in this blog, or when sharing my myself with someone is a manifestation of my Agreement towards self, honouring myself as Life, respecting myself and walking the words I stand for. Inside-outside. There is no middle-road.

When sharing myself with someOne, the practical Point of self honesty is: are both me and my partner participating equally effective in the process and if not - Why are you allowing ineffectiveness to exist?

Remember, it is all-ways about Self. This is the gift one must give to oneself in every moment. The result must be what is the best for All.

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