August 28, 2013

Day 90: Taking people's words and actions personally

While typing the title of this blog, I realised how comic in fact this whole projection is: how can I blame someone for my own interpretation of their words? Why do I go into a reaction when the other person doesn't do what I expect to be done? Isn't this an experience that I create in myself? How come can I expect another to know  my expectations and my relationships to words and therefore expect that they would say things and do things in a way that does not cause me any reaction? Isn't it common sense that it is my responsibility to stop the projections and to start purifying the words within me? Is it not the case that I can learn with another and the other can learn from me? I will therefore walk the point of taking another's words and actions personally:

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to feel angry internally when someone does not do that which I expect and think should be done.
I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to create this experience of anger within me which is a point of separation inside-out. I realise that I am responsible for my own anger because I am the one creating such experience within me based on the belief that this is how things should be/work.
I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to believe that I have the right to be angry at another, which is based on the belief of righteousness.

I forgive myself for not having accepted and allowed myself to let the reaction go and to be patient with another being as I like people to be patient with me.

I forgive myself for not having accepted and allowed myself to stop the mind in these moments and to allow myself to breathe slowly until I calm myself down and prevent the reaction/consequence.
I forgive myself for not having accepted and allowed myself to realise that the resistance to slow down and breathe is a defense mechanism of the mind to keep the energy building up within me.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to believe that if things don't go as I planned it means that something is going to go wrong. I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to imagine/create/antecipate images of what can go wrong.
I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to participate in the pattern of self-punishment based on the feeling of guilt when things don't go as I think they should go.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to react towards my own mind/imagination, instead of realising that I am accumulating this energetic experience and it requires me to be disciplined to STOP the ball, to breathe and to give me direction in that moment outside of my imagination, moving me in self-stability, one and equal to the other being.

I forgive myself for not having accepted and allowed myself to help me in these moment of energetic emotions and to support me in seeing the common sensical thing to do - either in communicating with another what would be a best practice or to ask to another what he/she is doing.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to assume that I know what the other is doing and to believe that I know what is going to happen based on the starting point that things will go wrong.
I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to participate in the back chat of the mind which is this conversation within me, the convictions, the assumptions and the answers in my mind that are pure imagination.

Self-corrective statements

I realise that currently my relationships  and interactions with other beings manifest the various patterns that I became and therefore this is my opportunity to walk these points and change myself.

When and as I see myself looking at another's action and thinking that she/he is doing it wrong, I stop the thought and I breathe. Instead of being a zombie observer, I commit myself to either help the other if needed or to do what I am doing and focus on my own actions (being an example to myself).

When and as I see myself fearing that the other person will drop something based on the starting point that if it was me I would be more careful, I stop and I breathe. I realise that I can only be careful with my actions and that thinking about the other as not careful is a point of separation. Therefore, I support myself to stand stable with another and to trust the other as myself. I realise that this projection actually shows me that I am the one not trusting myself in every moment and that I am accepting to distract me from myself entertained with thoughts about the others.

When and as I see myself participating in the patterns of righteousness towards another person, I stop and I breathe. I realise that my idea of how things work is based on my own experiences and that I cannot impose unto another - by bringing this point to myself, I realise that I am the one who believes that I must obey to another and do what I am told without considering what is the best thing to do, and this is the justification as to why I  tend to react when the other does not obey me! Within this realisation, I commit myself to stop wanting to control the other person, stop wanting to impose and to stop being a slave of my own mind. I realise that what I see in another also exists within me so I take this opportunity to stop accepting and allowing me to be a slave or desiring to have slaves doing what are told. I realise that all of us have much more to gain if we communicate with each other to come to an agreement of what is the best thing to do, as equals, rather then competing with ideas, minds and egos.

When and as I see myself taking another person's actions or words personally as an offense or as disobedience, I stop and I breathe. I slow the mind and I slow the thoughts about the other in order to allow me to focus on me, as to what I am allowing within my own thoughts. I realise that if I have a reaction towards specific words or voice tonality then I must investigate within me where is the reaction coming from, forgiving the memories that keep me separated from being here, stable in the present moment. At the same time, I realise that thinking that the other is doing something just to annoy me is a manifestation of paranoia and inferiority, therefore, I help me by stopping these thoughts and correcting me in my relationships to the other people, allowing me to stand equal to another, not superior or inferior.

When and as I see myself participating in the imagination and belief that I know that another's intentions are malicious, I stop and I breathe. I commit myself to stand accountable for my own thoughts and look at my starting point in real-time in order to stop the cycle and not feeding the mind.

When and as I see myself thinking that things will go wrong if things are done differently from what I believe should be, I stop and I breathe. I realise that the starting point of the plan was based  on my imagination, previous experience and judgments, instead of considering the best for all and common sense. I realise that changes to the plan is not necessarily a bad thing or that imply any punishment. I realise that it is my responsibility to make the best I can and be constantly correcting my actions in order to do things perfectly as the best for all.

I commit myself to focus on who I am in my relationship and interaction with another and I support me to be stable, equal to the other, in self-honesty, self-trust, steadfast in my own actions while open to another's solutions, looking at things in common sense and treating the other as I like to be treated.


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